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c'est la vie

Not dead (yet)

Actually, I'm not even close, though I've been horribly neglectful of my blog (and Twitter, for that matter). So I'm going to do a little data dump in the hope that I'll clear out the backlog and get back into a regular posting groove.

I have a few new addictions to report:

Naked Orange Mango Motion smoothies. Yum. I limit myself to 1 every other day or so, and to be honest, it isn't so much the 130 calories per serving as it is the $3 per bottle.

Boiron Cold Calm tablets. Those who know me well realize that homeopathic remedies are perhaps just a notch above voodoo dolls in my book. However, I wasn't feeling well recently and a friend gave me a box of these tablets. Like a lot of homeopathic remedies (so I'm told), you're supposed to put these under your tongue and let them dissolve. While they are missing the orange taste, they remind me of St. Joseph's chewable aspirin. I have three very strong associations with childhood health care St. Joseph's aspirin, grape-flavored Dimetapp and Flintstones vitamins. So I think I'll just keep Cold Calm tablets handy. And maybe I'll look for some chewable aspirin, too.

Oh, a little excitement to report. An underground transformer exploded in the middle of the night, leaving our office building without power. I later learned that not only did it blow power, it blew most of the windows out of our building, including most of ours on the 4th floor. Thank goodness it was at 3:30am and no one was there.

Oops, I was talking about addictions. Another one is Dance Dance Revolution. I got this in late January or early February (I can't remember now) and played a little here and there, but not much, primarily because I was totally and utterly horrible at it. This was a bit alarming as I am not a bad dancer. Well, a few weeks ago I accidentally started a song on "basic" level rather than "beginner" (the levels increase in difficulty from beginner to basic to difficult to expert). I immediately realized that I wasn't as bad as I thought - there are just so few steps on beginner level that it's hard to catch a groove. Beginner is much better. Of course, this is a Wii game and being that we have 1 Wii, 1 TV and 1 child who is addicted to Lego Star Wars and Super Mario Galaxy, getting in some game time is tough. So most nights between 11pm and 2am you can find me in my living room, stomping away. That's right...it isn't unusual for me to play for 2-3 hours. I just sat down to write this after a solid hour of having my ass handed to me by the basic version of "99 Red Balloons." Last night I got a AA on "Lips of an Angel" (that's better than an A, my previous high score). 

I've finally been able to run outside now that the weather isn't quite so cold. A few outdoor, 2-mile runs are under my belt, but I need to run a 3-mile soon to make sure I can do it as I'm in a 5K on 4 May.

Two weeks from today I'll be in Atlanta for a conference and two weeks after that, I'll be in the Dominican Republic with my girlfriends. I'm toying with the idea of going immediately to the NYC Makeup Show after I return, but I'm not sure if that will work or not. I'm trying to work out a trip to see my brother, SIL and nephews in Florida the week after Alex gets out of school, but that's slow going.

Speaking of travel, we booked airfare for Thailand and Hong Kong the other day. I cannot believe I am going! More details to come, for sure.

This hasn't been much of a data dump, but I'm falling asleep and I have to be at a meeting at 9am in the morning, so bed is calling.

snippets from the day

I asked Alex what he was doing as he played Lego Star Wars (Wii) and he said, "Oh, I'm just adventuring right now."

This morning Alex came and got in our bed and we stayed there talking and snuggling together until almost noon. We had so much fun, giggling and playing. There was much talk about Alex's belief that he owns the middle, including speculation about where any future sibling would be allowed in the mix. Alex insisted he would remain in between Joe and me and any future baby could sleep on my other side (the outside). Trying to explain how Alex could share the middle, Joe held up four fingers of one hand, saying that the index finger was him, the middle finger was Alex, the ring finger was the baby and the pinkie was me. Alex protested, "But why does Mommy have to be so short???" Way to sidetrack the discussion, kiddo.

(No, I am not pregnant and not trying to get pregnant.)

After we finally got up I cleaned up and went out to meet some friends for makeovers at the MAC counter. Chris did terrific work as usual, doing my eyes up in a fabulous combination of Shroom, Aquadisiac and Plumage. I wouldn't have chosen these colors normally, but wow, were they ever gorgeous on.

Swatches from Temptalia, one of the most awesome of awesome beauty sites - her collection of product color images (swatches) is staggering, her reviews are always very informative and her makeup artistry is phenomenal. Plumage looks more dark navy/teal than purple in real life. I would swatch the actual colors on my hand, but it turned out that both Aquadisiac and Plumage were out of stock:

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I noticed Eddie, one of the national makeup artists for Chanel, walk through the store and realized the Chanel counter was having an event, so I went over to say hi. Eddie has done my makeup a number of times and always does something really cool and inventive. Eddie loved what Chris had put on me, asking "Is there any color you can't wear?" Lately I'm realizing that I used to think I could only wear a few colors, but that is so wrong. I'm cool-to-neutral toned, so I can get away with a lot of warmer shades in addition to cools, and there isn't a color that I don't own and wear. It's all about finding the right shade and texture. I ought to post something girly and picture-laden about some of my recent makeup finds, but not tonight. :)

When I came home, Alex was playing Wii and we were all talking. Joe said something about Alex looking handsome and Alex agreed, saying he and Joe were both handsome. And I was the beautiful one. :)

A very grainy picture taken with my laptop camera - I love how he's reaching back to touch my face -- he is just the sweetest boy:

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As if TED2008 wasn't enough on its own...

They had to go and throw in a new chocolate addiction, too.

I am not a big chocolate eater - it's good, but I don't get omg-chocolate-or-death-have-to-have-it-gimme-gimme-gimme or anything like that. So for me to rave about and almost obsess over any chocolate is a big deal. But that, my friends, is what Vosges chocolate will do to a person.

Vosges pushers representatives held chocolate tastings throughout the conference and I don't think I even wandered their way until day 2 when they had a spread that included various chocolates with bacon. Go ahead, let that sink in a moment. Bacon. If I were a true chocolate lover, I'd say something like "the two most perfect foods together in one delectable, bite-sized morsel. The applewood bacon and chocolate truffles were amazing.

The next day included spicier fare such as Red Fire Chocolate Tortilla Chips. I wouldn't have thought of the combination, but I gotta say, I'm glad Vosges did. Yummy.

The biggest surprise of all, however, was a little thing called the Rural Blues truffle. The website says this white chocolate truffle contains "Anson Mills grits + burnt brown sugar + dried corn kernel." GRITS. IN CHOCOLATE. Sounds disgusting. Tastes delicious. (These truffles seem to only be available in assortments either sold with champagne for $111 or with a CD for $75. The second one is the "Groove" collection, which is also available in a Swarovski crystal box for $275. I'll just have to remember how they tasted. ;))

My favorite, though, was Bapchi's Caramel Toffee. Check out the website's description:

We make our crunchy, buttery toffee in large sheets, sprinkle each with mineral-rich pink Himalayan salt, coat the top with deep milk chocolate and finish it off with a sprinkling of roasted, organic walnuts and pecans.

Pink salt. I have just ordered 2 boxes for myself. :)

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TED2008 Day 3, Session 1: How do we create?

Amazing short film by Richard Hammond replicating close to the scale of the "Saving Private Ryan" Omaha Beach scene with only three people.

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John Knoll
Industrial Light and Magic and inventor of PhotoShop

"How do I create? Part of it is being a part of a community." It all comes down to community, doesn't it?

This is going to be hard to capture in word because it's all about visual effects.

Matte painting has been somewhat modified for the modern graphics era - it looks 3d in many cases but really isn't - "2.5d"

He just showed how they created a maelstrom in one of the Pirates movies - amazing work of computational fluid dynamics with what seemed like over a dozen different layers of effects, from subsurface bubbles to different types of foam on the surface.

Interesting talk, but not very much about the creative process.

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Yves Behar
designer

"The WHY is critical for me in answering the question, 'How do we create.'"

(Twitter is down! Oh, the horror!)

Here's a question you don't hear everyday: "What is that 'Num Lock' key? Do people really want it in their homes?"

"Advertising is the price companies pay for being un-original." (quoted by Yves, not his words)

As designers we need to think about how we can create a different relationship between our work and the world. It's the values we put into projects that create user value. Design is the glue that brings these values together.

RE: Jawbone headset - "If it isn't beautiful, it doesn't belong on your face."
It isn't about slapping a skin on the technology, it's about designing from the inside out.

DESIGN IS NEVER DONE. You need to continue to touch the user even after the product is designed. How do you continue to touch the user after the product is done?

Y Water - they created a symmetrical bottle that turned out to look like a Y, hence the name. The bottles connect, can become toys.

It's especially rewarding when your design work becomes a creative endeavor that other people can be creative with.

One Laptop Per Child: Negroponte said design was going to be why kids would love it, how it could be low-cost.

NYC Condom - NY began a public health campaign to distribute 36 million condoms. This is something where design creates a conversation - the design helped break the stigma. (Great slogan - NYC Condom - Get Some)
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Picture of me with fellow TEDster and all around cool smarty pants woman Tara Hunt:

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Robert Lang
origami artist

What changed in origami to create more natural forms, more complex forms in the last few decades? Math.

"The secret to productivity in math is to let dead people do your work for you."

There are 4 simple laws in origami that give rise to incredible complexity.

Idea->stick figure abstract form->base of folded shape->model

Going from abstract to base is the difficult leap. In the 90s, origami artists realized they could make complicated figures by packing circles onto single sheets. Each circle area becomes a portion of the based.

Real world apps for origami - medicine (stents), space (solar arrays, James Webb Space Telescope), automotive (airbags)

Lesson - sometimes problems solved for purely aesthetic reasons can turn out to solve very practical problems.
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Amy Tan
novelist

The value of nothing - out of nothing comes something.

Her big questions:
Why do things happen?
How do things happen?
How do I make things happen?

That last one is powerful in terms of personal growth and development -- we sometimes go through life experiencing life has happening to us without recognizing and acknowledging how much we actually create and control.

The uncertainty principle: I am not original, I am a fraud.
Observer effect: if you try to hard you will only discover the "about" and what you were looking for will be no longer there.

Ambiguity - the cosmological constant - you don't know what is operating but you know something is. "Save a man from drowning, you are responsible to him for life."  and "Saving fish from drowning."
They really have to do with intention -- we have a response and the results may not match our intentions.

Once you identify this ambiguity, you notice disturbing hints from the universe that were always there.

Why do we take on assumptions and other people's assumptions?

by imagining fully and becoming what is imagined and yet in that real world is how I find particles of truth in all possibilities. There are never complete answers. Uncertainty is a good thing. And if there is a partial answer it is to simply imagine. To imagine is to put myself in that story until there is a transparency between me and that story I have created. Imagination is the closest thing to feeling compassion.

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Todd Machover
(Funny moment - I'm sitting next to Tara Hunt who is also Twittering and taking notes. As June Cohen introduced Todd Machover, we both simultaneously flipped over our conference badges to check the spelling of his name. Totally cracked me up.)

1. Music is better if you make it. We each have the ability to create and be a part of music in a dynamic way. (Except me, he means. Really. I'm sure of it. Have you heard me sing in my car?)
2. Music is transformative.
3. Music shows who you really are.

Hyperscore - really cool program where you can compose music using color and lines and have it translated into musical notation.

Not a lot of notes here because Todd brought out a grad student and a patient Dan Eilsey who have been working together using Hyperscore and personal instruments so that Dan, who has cerebral palsy, can conduct and perform his own music. He performed a piece -- My Eagle Song -- and it was astounding and beautiful and all those other adjectives that in no way, shape or form can describe it's magnificence.
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I've been following TED tweets on Tweetscan and my favorite of the morning was @mizjodi who says "TED is the new orange."

TED Day 2, Session 1: What is life?

Alisa Miller
3 minute talk

How does the news shape the way we see the world - you must check out World Mapper which shows the world maps based on data other than land mass. In this instance, the maps here show how "big" other countries look in terms of media coverage. 

Key takeaway: Covering Britney is cheaper.
(By the way, it was longer than 3 minutes, but WELL worth it!)
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Craig Venter
Genetics pioneer

We've been digitizing life for 20 years through mapping the human genome. Can we regenerate life or generate new life out of the digital world? It's very difficult to generate DNA and the longer a chain you build, the more the errors. So now they're trying to replicate bacteria. But if they build it, how do they "boot it up"? The idea is that they create a chain, take another bacteria and insert the chain into that bacteria's genome and then the bacteria "boots up" as the one they are trying to create.

20 million genes discovered to date - these genes are the design components of the future.

They're working on software to design species digitally -- I'm sure it's more complex than the slide suggests, but it's hard to grasp designing a species via pull-down menu.

Their goals as Craig says are "fairly modest" - replace the petrol-chemical industry, become a major source of energy, improve vaccines, etc.

What bugs me about this is that it's difficult to follow with complex slides. I'm still brewing over yesterday's comment about the "female physicist" in a previous TED session who was "incomprehensible." But instead of the argument that resulted from that presentation, Chris Anderson sat down with Venter and said "help me understand."

Someone just posed that they are also a very dangerous organization due to the weaponization possibilities of this technology. Venter seems to believe (backed by Pew study) that few people want to use this technology to do harm. But who defines harm? Maybe there aren't terrorists who will want to do this (not now, anyway), but what about government use? I don't believe that all of those uses will be  peaceful or "good."

$100 million year budget, 70% funded by the government.

What can the TED community do to help? We need to educate people and not stop because we're fearful of what the technology can do.
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Paul Rothemund
DNA origamist

What goes into the definition of life -- lots of questions, but basically it involves computation. And small changes (mutations) can result in very meaningful changes. He's comparing the parts of molecules in terms of machinery and hardware -- molecular computers.

He says Venter is asking what's the smallest sequence I can create to replicate an organism? That's the same as "what's the smallest program I can build to replicate Word?"

Current DNA nanostructure building is very elegant but time consuming. His process, DNA origami, can "be done in your kitchen." Short strands of DNA attach in to long strands in different places so that it pulls the long chain into a series of double helixes. These are often rectangular in shape but can be manipulated into different shapes based on what short strands you use and where they attach.

Cool - student in China built a DNA origami chain that looks like China.

But what is the use? DNA origami doesn't scale -- you can't build a human. What it can do is algorithmic self-assembly of tiles. The tiles become the program and the patterns they form are the output. And computer program can be translated into a tile pattern that counts. Please don't ask me to explain how it does it because I just can't. Of course, it counts, but like Alex when he was 2, it skips numbers. "At least it counts up," he says.
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Dean Ornish
medical researcher

We're learning how powerful and dynamic lifestyle changes can be. Walking for 3hrs per week can actually increase your brain neurogenisis. Things that build cells - chocolate, tea, blueberries, stress management. Decrease cells - too much alcohol, sugar, etc.

Lifestyle changes can even turn on helpful genes,

Our genes are not our fate -- we can impact predisposition by making lifestyle changes like eating less fat and sugar, not smoking.
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Susan Blackwell
memecist, psychologist

Humans are the Pandorian species.

The theory of memes is founded on principle of universal Darwinism. It's much if-if-if-then -- the evolutionary algorithm of variation, selection and heredity. With those you must get evolution or "design out of chaos without the aid of mind." Genes are the first replicator - powerful and selfish replicator s(they will replicate if they can regardless of consequences). Another replicator is culture -- we replicate behaviors we see.

A meme is not an idea - just information that is copied. TED is a great meme-fest.

A curious meme - you go to a hotel and see lots of things, including the neatly folded toilet paper end. Who thought this up and how has it spread? But it has indeed spread across the world. Blackmore shows photos of folded toilet paper ends all around the world.

We are the meme machines -- we propagate memes. (Sometimes pretty quickly I think.) We are the second replicator.

She's seeing new memes - technological memes - technomemes. Technology is on the cusp of becoming the third replicator.

Drake equation - number of communicative civilizations. He included intelligence as a factor, but Blackmore says it is less important than the replicators. Her equation computes the fractions of planets in the galaxy that have first, second and third replicators with the fraction of a planet's life for which the third replicator survives.

But new replicators are dangerous to produce -- simple example is that babies with bigger brains are harder to give birth to.

We think we created the internet for our own benefit, but meme theory says that techno-memes (temes) replicated themselves and we were just the ve
hicle for replication.

This is the first talk I've heard on meme theory, though I've read about it, and now I have a much better view of it's so controversial.
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Christopher DeCharms
You can mimic what you can see - soon you will be able to program your brain states. Through non-invasive MRI to see real time what our brains are doing as we think, move, feel, etc. We can watch brain activity, then select areas to control. For instance, chronic pain patients can see their brain activity and repath activity to reduce pain.

The big question - our generation is the first to be able to do this -- where will we take it?

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David Hoffman

filmaker

Nine days ago he had a fire - his archive of films, books, everything -- gone. Was he his things, he asks?  Wanting to take something good from something bad, he's digging it out, wondering if there's something new and better to see in the burned objects. He's working on this idea of life as bits and pieces.

Each person's tragedy is just that to them, but Fred just commented to me and I'm sitting with the thought of how much tragedy exists in the world as children die every day, violent acts are committed, people

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Doris Kerns Goodwin

I've heard her speak a few times and I'm struck at how detailed her stories are - compelling not in their delivery but in their richness. This is a bit different because she's talking about how the richest lives are ones that strike a balance between work, love and play.

There's no way to convey the details she relays about how Lincoln persevered through tragedy, many defeats and remain true to his convictions, had the foresight and courage to build a cabinet from not just allies but detractors and competitors. If you haven't read Team of Rivals, consider it.

Goodwin says that learning to keep score of a baseball game and then relaying the game events taught her an appreciation of history and story telling. She always brings tears to my eyes when she talks about her love of baseball and its connection to her growing up, her father, her sons.
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TED2008 - Day 1: Who are we?

First up is Hamlet's soliloquy. Once upon a time I knew this by heart.

And Chris Anderson takes the stage. It's time for TED! This year's theme is The Big Questions and over the next 4 days we'll talk about questions like, Will evil prevail? What is life?

First up - Louise Leakey
Just an upright, walking, super-intelligent, big-brained ape.
It's remarkable to think of how many questions still exist about human ancestry and how little time we've truly been exploring it.

Who are we and are the things our much larger brain allow us to do going to be the cause of us being the shortest-lived hominid species?

"We are most certainly the only animal that makes conscious choices that are bad for our survival as a species." -Louis Leakey
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And now a little film -- the unmasking scene from Return of the Jedi. Except imagine that instead of the mask mouthpiece, Vader had a harmonica. Luke decides the mask is preferable.
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Next up - Wade Davis
Culture was born of the imagination.
All peoples are simply cultural options, different visions.
Western science is a major response to a minor need.

I have to look up the stories of the Elder Brothers who pray for the well-being of everyone and look at the rest of us in the industrialized world as the Younger Brothers who are ruining the world.

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Next up we're live in Aspen! Rives just did a cute little story with

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Back to Monterey - Chris Jordan
Talking about how the small, unintended actions
4mil plastic cups used on airplanes every day
40mil hot beverage cups every day. That's a 42 story building

US has the largest % of its people in prison.

If you haven't seen his art work representing the scale of waste, addiction and excess, you should. It's staggering.

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Bonus surprise...recorded earlier today, Stephen Hawking. Whoa.

1. Where did we come from?
2. Are we alone?
3. What is the future of the human race?

There aren't words to express how remarkable this person on earth is.

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Jill Bolte Taylor
So much of what we know about the brain is learned from what goes wrong with it.

Harvard neurologist who had a stroke.
Right brain - the here and now, thinks in pictures, each moment is an enormous collage of how we are experiencing everything around us.
Left brain - linear, methodical, all about past and future, what was and what can be. Picks out details of the collage, catalogs it, associates it with everything else we've experienced. Thinks in words. Tells us we are individuals.

We are of two minds and in every moment we can choose to step into the right or the left and experience it, act out of it and impact our world as a part of the whole or a distinct individual.

What is nice is to see a powerful woman, fully herself, sharing herself both intellectually and emotionally, telling her story through her tears. Tears are not reason to stop, to "pull yourself together." They are simply one manifestation of life and who we are.

building my personal brand?

Sometimes I think about the difference between doing something and being that thing. I blog, ergo, I am a blogger. I write, therefore I am a writer. Right? I don't know. I run and I definitely consider myself a runner even though I haven't run all winter and up until 3 years ago, I thought running was something I simply couldn't do.

Is it really that simple, though? If someone were to ask if I sing, I'd say "Yeah, I sing up a storm in the car." But I would never say I'm a singer. (And neither would anyone who has been in the car with me.) Do you have to be good at something to label yourself as such?

OK, wow...this is so not where I intended to go with this post, but I love it when I start typing and a new truth comes out. The ironic thing is that I've been pondering spirituality for a couple of years now and if I were to label myself, I say I'm closer to Buddhist than anything else. I'm a pretty bad Buddhist, but that doesn't stop me from saying that's what I am. Would a better Buddhist scoff at my self-labeling? Would a real Buddhist scoff at anything? Scoffing seems very un-Buddhist like. These are the very questions that make me a bad Buddhist, I think. But you know what? I am A-OK with that.

Anyhow, getting back to what I intended to say...over the last couple of years it seems everyone has started talking about personal brand. It is apparently a big deal, and every blogger worth her salt is considering how each post builds an online persona (which might be and probably often is different from the real life persona). When the topic comes up, I have two reactions. The first is, "Sweet fancy Moses, my online brand sucks! There's so much of this and that, too much nonsense. Where's my focus? Where's my purpose?? I am not a blogger, I am a total poser!" (Yeah, I know no one uses "poser" anymore.) This is accompanied by hand-wringing and a facial expression best described as "vexed."

My second reaction is a bit more subdued. Here's how it goes: from an upright and relaxed position, simultaneously raise both shoulders approximately one inch. Return shoulders to their resting state. No need to repeat. That's right, part of me just doesn't care about my personal brand. I'm not out to make money off my blog, accumulate a huge readership, promote my business* or new book** or otherwise get famous. I don't want to be Scoble or Dooce. (Not that there's anything wrong with them - we just have different motivations. I think.) I just want to be me, and so far, being me is an inconsistent and often contradictory hodge-podge. But everything I know about brand emphasizes consistency and alignment. It is about focus, about doing one thing and doing it well. Soooo not me.

And let's face it, between parenting a six-year old (who, upon the first loosening of an incisor insisted he could no longer brush his own teeth and keeps announcing he wants to learn Japanese so he can go to Japan instead of having a seventh birthday party) and working a full-time job that I adore but adds up to more than 40 hours a week and has me flying all over the place, I often find myself making choices like "Blog or sleep?" (note that it is now 1:58 a.m. and I am not sleep-typing) Adding "carefully curate my online persona" to my to-do list just ain't happening.

This is not to say that careful attention to one's personal brand is unimportant or frivolous or a waste of time. It's very important for a lot of people and for good reason. But for me, I think I'll just stick to being a person who, among many other things, blogs. I mean, I think I'll just be a blogger.

Oh, one last note. My job title? Brand and Strategy Manager. Maybe managing my personal brand is more life-work integration*** than I can muster.

*I don't have a business. (anymore)
**Don't have a new book, either. Or even an old one.
***I don't believe in work-life balance. Perhaps in my next post I'll explain what life-work integration means to me.

What a lovely day, despite most of it

Let me just say that there's one very exasperating situation going on that I can't go into detail about, but it makes me want to punch a hole in the wall. aaarrrrrggggghhhhh

But like Alex said, "if you are mad you will live." And I will live.

Speaking of Alex, I spaced on the candy and gift bags that I bought supplies for last night -- it was very late and Alex was long since asleep when I remembered and assembled the bags. He was tickled to see them in the morning, asking me "Hey Mommy, are these to give my kids?" He often refers to his classmates as "my kids" for reasons I cannot quite get out of him, though I suspect his teacher says the same thing.

We went out to the car to go to school and couldn't open any of the car doors. After much effort, I finally got the doors open and the ding-danged car was stuck in the snow and ice. There wasn't even that much there for it to be stuck in, but we weren't going anywhere, so we had to walk. (The horror, I know, having to walk an entire 3 blocks...but it was cold, people. Plus I stepped on some thin ice and both feet went right into a puddle, getting both my socks wet.

We had a lovely dinner out this evening and we all exchanged little gifts before going to eat -- nice evening. But Steve the Postman and Unknown UPS Person were particularly good to me today.

First was a little gift from a friend, a mini Fashion Emergency kit. So adorable!

Next was my pre-ordered Thriller 25th anniversary CD with DVD. The DVD has the three videos from the album, including the full length version of "Thriller" and the Motown 25 performance. It's nice to remember not really him, but what life was like then, what I thought of that music, how excited we'd all be any time one of his songs came on the radio in my mother's little blue Ford Escort. (sorry to go all "soundtrack of my youth" on you there)

And in the final package I opened I found my tube of Lancome Pixel Pink, Gucci Westman's last lipcolor of her Pret-a-Pout collection that features collaborations with fashion designers. This particular shade was done in collaboration with Thakoon. Last year I scored a tube of Proenza Pink (designer-Proenza Schouer) but hem-hawed around about getting PS Kiss (designer - Peter Som) and I regret it. I know that must sound strange, to regret not buying a lipstick. But in terms of regrets, it could be a lot worse! (Let's not even think about the Behnaz Sarfapour red that started the series.

Pixel Pink is an amazing lipstick - it is a light raspberry pink color that goes on very smoothly and is at the same time both richly pigmented but light and fairly sheer. But the best part is that it feels so wonderful on - nothing drying or heavy feeling about this. I would recommend picking up a tube immediately, except that it is sold out on Lancome's site. (I bought it the day it went online, and I'm not sure when it sold out -- might have been that same day.) Here's a tip, though -- Bergdorf Goodman's Lancome counter has excellent phone order service. When I ordered the Proenza lipstick from them, they were extremely helpful and threw in literally handfuls of product samples. In a moment of introversion, I chose online ordering for Pixel Pink, so no such luck this time.

Oh, and while we didn't do anything big for Valentine's Day Joe did suggest that we go to the Palace (local restored theater) to see their Monday night showing of "Doctor Zhivago." So we have a date, for the first time in ages. Oh, and we worked out a good schedule with Analise, our home-life coordinator, for covering Alex's vacation from school next week.

So not a bad day, all in all. Happy Valentine's Day everyone

3 displeasing facts

The air temperature is 11F.
The wind chill is -1F.
Our furnace just quit working.

From shy to fly in 5 easy steps

See that title? That is not the title of a shy person. It's brash and over-promising. It's ironic in its use of slang. But guess what? I'm shy. Or at least that's what I tell myself.

Before I go any farther, I have to ask...do you read Chris Brogan's blog? Chris is the co-founder of PodCamp and an all-around smarty pants about social media and community. Even his 140-characters-or-fewer Twitter posts are thought provoking and smart. About three months ago, Chris wrote 100 Blog Topics I Hope YOU Write About. It's a great list -- so great that over 200 people have picked a topic or 2 or 3 to blog about. One of these days, I'm going to finish reading them all, but I figured after all these weeks, it was about time to actually write something about the one I picked for myself.

The one that popped out at me was #85: How I Went From Very Shy to Less Shy.

Let's get one thing clear right now: I am still a shy person. Not painfully so, but still. It's only been in the last 2 or maybe 3 years that I realized I'm not as shy as I think I am. In fact, more often than not, if I mention my shyness now, people are surprised. "You don't seem at all shy to me," is the common response. So how did I do it? Bottom line, I got a little braver. And then I got a lot braver. I started taking more chances. But it isn't always easy and it so often doesn't come naturally. Here are some tricks I learned:

1. Remember that a big part of shyness is that feeling that everything you are doing stands out or gets noticed. It's the spotlight effect. We often think people are watching our every move and judging us harshly, when the truth is that more often than not, they are more worried about their own actions. So why spend so much time worrying about what others think and shutting myself down? Big waste of energy.

2. Get a role model. Watch people who you think of as outgoing or confident or whatever it is that you think you AREN'T. What are their behaviors? What do they do that is different? You don't need to be them, but you can learn from them.

3. Corollary - fake it till you make it. Sometimes when I'm feeling like hiding in the corner, I think about my role model and what they would do, and I just do it. If I see someone with a great handbag in front of me in the Sephora checkout line, I might be tempted to just keep quiet (and I often am). But if my husband sees just about anybody wearing Penn State gear, he will strike up a conversation or at least give them a rousing "We are!" So I remember that and just do what he would do. And you know, people often respond very well. After all, who doesn't like a compliment?  Sometimes half the battle is just acting unshy to break the ice. It isn't all about faking it - it's about getting yourself over the hump so that the real you can come out.

4. Practice! Pick some safe surroundings to push your own envelope. When you're with your friends, be a little bolder, a little more daring. Go first. Call shotgun. Use the moments when you feel safe and comfortable to break out of that old box.

5. Stop the negativity. I've gotten better about it, but I still nibble at myself -- tell myself I'm too this or not enough that. Cut it out. Remember that spotlight effect? Stop shining the light in your own eyes. Try for just one day to think a positive thought after every interaction, especially the ones that make you nervous. If you tell yourself often enough that you aren't shy, that people want to know you and want to hear what you have to say, then somewhere down the line, you're going to start believing it.

So, that's all I have. I'm certainly not going to win a Nobel Prize for social skills. (What? That isn't a category?) But it's these little* tricks that help me be a little more of the person I want to be and give others a chance to know the person I really am.

Danke to Chris for the inspiration.

*Okay, maybe they don't sound like little tricks. Just keep telling yourself that they are.  No point in psyching yourself out, is there?